It's Valentines Day & We're 20something & Single.

Okay so unless you’ve been living under a rock, you know that Valentine’s Day is only a few short days away. Or maybe you’d just like to ignore that fact and skip this post in its entirety or take a bottle to the face. But in all seriousness the amount of discussion about this holiday has really got me thinking.

Within the past week every girl on twitter has tweeted a photo, quote or idea as to what her “perfect” valentine would get her or do for her. “Like omg, if only ____ got me this uber-expensive bouquet of roses”.   Then there are the girls who talk about how much they hate this day and everything that comes with it. “I would never want that giant teddy bear on my doorstep” blah blah blah. And to be honest I can see why any single girl might hate this holiday. It does kind of set itself up to be quite depressing, especially if every person you’d normally go to the bar with is out on some kind of date. But really what most of us should do is reevaluate what this day is really about. Valentine’s day is obviously about love, those stupid heart-shaped chocolate boxes will never let us forget that, but what a lot of people seem to forget is love isn’t defined by your relationship status. Love is feeling.

Remember when you were in grade school and you had to give every single classmate a cheesy Valentine’s Day card? Looking back on it, it kind of seems foolish, but do you remember how excited you were to read the funny quotes and eat the candies that came attached? You’re lying, if you say you weren’t. Back then V-Day was a blast.

My question for you now is, what changed? Why did we all of a sudden start to hate a day that used to make us all so happy? As a single 20-something, why are we so scared to face the fact that we don’t have someone to snuggle with that night? Its not like its any different from February 13^th or February 15^th, so why does the 14^th haunt so many of us?? I’m famous for my pro-con lists and to be honest, the 14^th has some pretty rad pros. Like what other day of the year is it perfectly acceptable to drink lots of wine and eat chocolates without anyone judging you?? Sure you might not wake up to a room filled with roses but hell, all the candy will be on sale and there’s sure to be a good movie marathon on television so why not embrace it?

All I’m saying is maybe you’ll have more fun than you expect just by inviting one of your single friends over. You guy can make treats, hang out, get a little drunk, take bets on how long some relationships might last and maybe, just maybe the idea of being single wont seem so scary.

So to all of you readers who have a “sweetie” (gag me) to love up on this holiday, congratulations, I’m sure you’ll enjoy your dinner and gifts. But for all of my fellow single peeps out there, you’re not alone, so grab your cell, ring up your closest single friend and plan a night you wont want to forget.